The First Day of Placement

The first day of placement will always be an exciting experience.  In order for things to go well, advanced planning and preparation is important.  You may wish to add additional helpful hints to this handout, and share it during a family meeting so that the whole family is prepared to welcome the child/children.

When the child is initially placed in your home, he/she will not become comfortable with you and the new surroundings immediately.  Even infants may experience a period of adjustment when placed in an unfamiliar environment.  A child's reaction to placement depends largely upon past experiences.  The fact that your home provides a safer and more nurturing environment, will not prevent this natural human process.  An important point to remember is that the child's transition into your home will be made easier if you do not take the behavior personally.

Additional points to remember when a child is initially placed into your home:

• Be patient; don't expect miracles.

• The child is attempting to make some sense of new people, new surroundings, and behaviors that are different from what he/she is accustomed.

• No matter how terrible the previous situation was, the child will probably display some sadness and anxiety due to loss.

• The child may be unclean and poorly dressed with little, if any, clothing, or the child may be appropriately dressed with an adequate wardrobe.  No matter what the child's condition, do not immediately discard his/her clothing and other personal possessions.  They have special meaning to the child.

• The child may blame himself or herself for what has happened.  Assure the child that this is not the case.

• The child may be withdrawn, tearful, anxious, angry, or overly active and playful.  With some children, there will be no obvious effects of the placement.

• No matter what the child's behavior or disposition, it is important that you and your family show acceptance, warmth and most of all, understanding during this very difficult time for the child.